IN THE LIVES OF THE EVERYDAY WOMAN
There are many ways to explore and embrace the changing stages of a woman’s life. The one that I resonate with and would like to share with you in this blog , are the cycles of a woman’s life reflected in the three stages of the Triple Goddess: The Maiden, the Mother and the Crone.
The Maiden-Mother-Crone goddess archetypes were traditionally presented to support each rite of passage within a woman’s journey of life : from entering womanhood (Maiden), to embracing motherhood (Mother) and empowering us in menopause (Crone).
We always embody aspects of the Maiden, Mother and Crone, through at particular stages through out life one archetype may be more powerfully present.
These three stages of womanhood also make up the cycle of the moon as well as capturing the essence of all life: birth, growth, and death/transformation, and eventual renewal.
Having an Understanding of these expressions of energies within each archetype allows us to embody, embrace, honour and harness their gifts throughout all stages of our lives. It can help us deepen our connection to self, and come to more fully understand and own our feminine power . Knowing more about how these goddesses affect our lives allows us to open to deeper self-awareness and our own personal healing.
The maiden is the phase in a woman's life that represents new beginnings , spring time , freedom , rebirth , adventure, desire . The Maiden is the energy of play, curiosity, and innocence. Women whose maiden energy is heightened have an adventurous spirit and love to explore and try new things. She carries within her the creative force, the seeds that hold all potential. She is the new waxing moon .
When The Maiden is awakened and in her healthy energy, she is free to express her true nature . She is passionate, fun loving, spontaneous, curious, imaginative, intuitive, and adventurous. She knows how to flow.
It begins with the maiden starting to find her identity, as she begins to grow away from the intimidate conditionings of the immediate family. The maiden is about creating a relationship with self. Chronologically this happens at a time when there is a lot of pressure being who others want her to be. She begins to ask who am I? What do I want? This can be difficult if she does not have a loving supportive environment or the encouragement in which to explore and flourish.
To be in her healthy maiden it’s about creating inner resilience so that she can develop a strong sense of self . She moulds herself rather than being moulded by others. Its an important stage for her to find her own voice.
When the maiden is wounded or in her unhealthy energy she will be irresponsible, self-destructive, emotionally co-dependent, unreliable, she will not trust her intuition and may place her self-worth on her attractiveness. She may become a people pleaser to gain acceptance and outside approval.
The archetype of the young woman can have extreme depth, for most maidens,( myself included) to bring this into its full expression we have to mature and work through the darker aspects of her energy.
We may find ourselves revisiting the maiden many times throughout your older life. For example when the kids leave home and your primary role as a mother has shifted. Again you may ask who am I? What do I want? Or we may access the maiden energy when we enter a midlife intimate relationship or if you want to cultivate joy and the sense of freedom again in your life ….
When in her healthy aspect, she is a beautiful expression to embody. However old you may be. Connect with your maiden energy by being playful, feeling into the vibration of innocence, smell the flowers, be curious spontaneous, do something adventurous.
To embody the mother energy you do not have to be a physical mother . She is the creative act … she uses her energy to birth her creations into the world whether that be her children, her career, her arts or her projects.
This is the summer time of our life, and she is represented by the full moon.
Her expressions are fulfilment, fertility, ripeness, potency, devotion, compassion, giving, caring, nurturing, protection and power.
She weaves the ideas, dreams, and desires of the maiden and turns them into something more tangible. The mother is usually of childbearing years .. but not always. If you have birthed a creation of any sort, devoted time and TLC to something or someone , including yourself … then this is the presence of the nurturing mother energy shining through.
Its the mother energy that moves us into experiencing the world of balance. This includes finding balance between caring for your personal needs, growing and nurturing your own projects and career while still caring for everyone else .
Having the awareness of being able to meet our own needs while looking after everyone else’s is not easy. It helps for the mother to cultivate skills in conflict resolution, assertiveness and good communication for the betterment of her own needs being meet .
Its about learning how to honour your own needs as well as the needs of others .
If you can find that balance then we keep the mother energy healthy.
It can be tricky, especially in our western world where the modern woman feels like she needs to be super woman.
This is when the unhealthy mother may develop.
When she’s in her unhealthy energy she can become the self-sacrificing Marta, manipulative, over controlling and overbearing. She needs to be needed and may struggle with personal boundaries and saying NO. Women whose mother energy is too overpowering end up feeling over-stressed, undervalued, and drained. I’m sure we have all been there !
The mother invites you to the practice of the giving and receiving of love….and that includes to one self. It’s when we find this harmony between these two polarities, the beauty and radiant essence of the mother shines bright.
And lastly we move into the crone